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We will know!
"To meet the best in bed" - taught a femme fatale Lilya Brik. It is written beautifully, but it is unlikely this advice is useful: most likely, the phrase was coined by the Muse of the great proletarian poet's witticism – she loved to shock people... In fact, the problem of "I have no place to meet" exists, and to jokes does not have...

In today's world, people really find it difficult to find time and place for communication and Dating. After all, we are so Autonomous, divided, so rarely pay attention to others, so focused on their problems that do not even notice those who live in the next apartment, who sits next to the bus, working in the next office. We walk the streets, focusing on his thoughts, and rarely look at the faces of those around her, but in vain... We hurry, we expect great things, and this is partly justified: the rhythm of life, nothing can be done! But don't we miss the most important thing in this race? At least, the main thing for us, women…

Or we have come up with a problem of Dating and lack of men to justify the failures in his personal life, and even the complete absence of such?…

For two weeks our readers talked about their Dating experience and reflected on the relevance of the problem. It turned out, for many of us familiarity with a man – the task is not difficult:

76 % of respondents believe that it is quite easy to meet a man:
"I think that it is not difficult to meet. You just have to smile." "Absolutely not difficult, if there is a desire and mood." "It seems to me that it is not difficult to get acquainted, it is necessary to treat this question more simply."
Answers include tips and reflections:

"In fact, it is not difficult to meet men. Need lot more smile, be fun, sociable and... have a good affluence! Then there are a lot of people who want to sit on your neck."
Or so:

"I think this problem is far-fetched. Not so complicated. All is that it is difficult to keep some, and to get rid of others...".
But about 10 % of women admitted that acquaintance with a man for them is almost unreal:

"I think it's really hard to meet a man. This is the problem of the century."
The rest of the audience believes that, most likely, the reasons for unsuccessful acquaintances or even their absence – in ourselves, in our fears, doubts and complexes.

We reject the man who asked for a "telephone", because it is somehow not solid, to meet on the street; colleagues seem to us boring and they are tired; and to go somewhere to have fun in the evenings can only be quite young ladies, up to 30 years. Far Prime the rest of the – it is unclear.
Most single women are concerned about their disorder and actively trying to fix the situation: in the course are Dating sites, "proven" matchmakers; "sighting" walk through the men's shops... it Turns out that we, women, a priori took the initiative: want to meet – go for it! Hope is not on anyone:

"It all depends on the woman, her ability to communicate and achieve the desired." "It seems to me, it is difficult to get acquainted with the man to those who can't approach itself since our men painfully timid. Like see that I like him, but he will not do, and will incinerate you with his eyes".
So hope for men we seem to have ceased: the time has come to organize themselves their happiness! To meet, to choose. Even the most active and optimistic readers in their answers recognized: it is not difficult to meet, it is difficult to choose a decent man:

"It is not difficult to get acquainted with a man, but the goal of every woman is not any man, but having the necessary set of external, moral and material qualities for her. And to get acquainted with the right man is actually a problem for "picky" ladies!""It's very easy to meet. It is difficult to get acquainted with Him - the man of your dreams, the man of your life."
Is it possible at first glance to determine whether a man is suitable for long-term relationships and marriage, or not? After all, looks can be deceiving, and from the wicked don Juan, who has the appearance of the stern ascetics and great guys that look well, not very securely…

Women's insight, intuition – that's our Arsenal, and how good if it really works! But often still vaunted intuition does not work and... fall in love "in the wrong"! Maybe we're in too much of a hurry.
"If you sit at home and wait, no one will come. The main thing is to ask the question: what did I do today to make Him knock on my door? Difficult - no, far-fetched - Yes. Maybe you do not need to soar in the clouds, and look into the eyes of reality?»
And the reality is that at the age of 30 years the number of men and women in our country is almost the same, but then the proportions are no good... we Must hurry, do not yawn, and most importantly, do not be afraid of anything…

"The woman who because of the complexes can't approach the man, tries to justify herself that it "in principle it is impossible". Dear ladies, it is difficult only for the first time!»
... and know what you want:

"It all depends on yourself, the main thing is to know exactly what kind of man you want to find and what you expect from him. For pastime or for procreation."
It turns out that we initially do not place any hopes on men: they are indecisive, only look from afar, and come – in the afternoon with fire you will not find a daredevil?! Well, they just sit there, waiting in the rooms until we find them, the sick, and lead them down the aisle?

The picture emerges cheerless... And after all there is a wish to be desired and favourite, object of secret passion and dreams... there is a Wish that you won, but didn't let in the life with a scratch: "well, come...". Is that really the way it is? But if you read stories from the lives of our respondents, not so bad. Judge:

"It was Saturday morning. He saw me at the savings Bank, where I was standing in a long line. Then released, again went ... I decided to wait for me in the car. Then, waiting for me, drove the car to the stop and offered a ride. I never sit in someone else's car (the only one!), but it was starting to rain and the bus never came... I sat down. We had a shared fascination with the esoteric. Nothing is accidental."
"My husband and I met on the city beach. The most amazing thing that we studied at one Institute, lived nearby, we even had mutual friends, and met in this extraordinary place! The reason for acquaintance was a flying saucer, in which he played with friends and invited me with friends to join them. Now this object has become a symbol of our love, I'm happy and I think that the main thing in the future when arguing not to remember the flying saucers in the kitchen!""On one of the holidays I was with a friend. It was very boring, I decided to call my boyfriend, but since I did not have my mobile phone then, I asked the first person I met. The subscriber was unavailable, and a new friend offered in return his candidacy. So we're together now."
"I met my boyfriend at a disco. It all happened pretty quickly: he liked how I dance, he came up to me, and then everything went by itself. Then we took a couple of walks, and he asked me out. We've been together for two years..."
It turns out that it is not so passive people – our men. They can be interested, they can be found... They are nearby! If you really think that it's all about places that "need to know", but you personally do not know anything about those, this is a fixable matter. In the book of the popular psychologist Dili Enikeeva "Lonely woman wants to meet" there is a detailed description, you can even tell the instructions for those who do not know where to look for a real man:

"- It is desirable that this place has a pleasant pastime: exhibition hall, theater, cinema, concert hall, concert hall in the Park, Park.
- There should be at least a few men of any age, any appearance and social status – you are still playing, training, and not looking for a life partner.
- The place should be such where people do not rush headlong (for example, to the metro station), and go slowly, stand, sit, walk…
- Choose a place where there are people familiar to you circle of friends. With such people you will be easier to meet, and they, accordingly, with you.
- "On the hunt" you have to come out in a good mood…
- Do not be afraid to be in public places alone. Usually single ladies prefer to go as a couple and thus cut off many single men. It is unlikely that any of them, unless the inveterate heartthrob, dares to approach two women at once... To be rejected by a single woman – still far from it, but if she otbreet in the presence of a friend - it is extremely humiliating for a man...".
The last advice seemed to me especially reasonable: indeed, a woman without companions looks so romantic and mysterious...
And where do prefer to meet our readers who answered the questions of the questionnaire?

52% advise to get acquainted in any places where there are many people: parks, beaches, theaters, exhibitions;
28% believe that it is impossible to calculate some special place – as fate will order…;
11% - for the office and colleagues who are always "at hand»;
5% think that it is necessary to look closely at young men in student classrooms;
2% called the Internet the best place;
and the same amount - 2% - recommend to do it on vacation.
After that, I had no choice but to check: to what extent do our expectations correspond to reality? After all, the respondents were told where they really are in my time met with men. I wonder if they met where they advise to do it? The mysterious female logic itself in some way justified: the percentages were distributed as follows:
27% met by chance (probably, this is what the first list called "fate"). The cases are very different: from a wrong phone call to... refugee camps;
16% found their destiny at work;
14% - in public crowded places like city Christmas tree and recreation Park;
10% - online;
8% - in cafes or bars;
7% met on vacation;
6% - in the metro;
5% have known each other since childhood;
4% - at the Institute;
2% - outside;
1% - in the store.
It turns out that the majority is still simple

opportunity presented itself.

Maybe that's how it should be. I remember, even the great strategist Lyudmila from the film "Moscow does not believe in tears" was not helped by any tedious graying in the scientific library, or visiting film festivals... the Main man of her life she met corny and simple – in the subway. Probably, such things are best done without preliminary rehearsals! What, in fact, speak eloquently of the questionnaire our readers: these amazing events is simply impossible to predict:

"...Very much hurried with the girlfriend after work home and in the subway flew at full speed into the closing doors of the train (as if in a minute another would not come).
Girlfriend got. And suddenly, sitting beside her a young man gallantly offered me to sit down. I, of course, agreed. Then he began so same gallantly kleitsya (??? precisely me), and then it turned out, that us until one station to go, Ah and further even more interesting, when it turned out, that we still and in one district live. So safely and arrived.
Since then, we've started... No, not love, at that time I was a little busy, and didn't want to tie relations with persons of the opposite sex. A true friendship... We started seeing more and more of each other. They could walk and talk for 5-6 hours without even noticing it. Only six months later we realized that madly in love with each other... And I think what would have happened if I hadn't jumped into that car with the doors closing?"I spent a sleepless night with my lover, with my favorite wine, and with Apple tobacco in my hookah. Morning. Time for work. On the way - a night place where you can drink strong coffee. The first, second, third and fourth Cup is drunk under the interesting views of not only the bartender, but also a young man sitting alone. Approached under the guise to ask for a match. Had it 15 matches, show puzzle game: while you were showing off, it took 6 hours. To work that day, I did not get, but learned all about him, told him all about his life. And after 8 days the acquaintance grew into a life together. Not regret! And my husband is younger than me for exactly 5 years! Oh!""When I was asked to write a job application, I just couldn't. I forgot how to write words and letters were confused, there were so many of them when you look into His eyes. In a beautiful, blue eyes, incredible, unfathomable, mind-blowing. I was hired instantly. When I finished my application and left, he called and asked: "Are You not married?".
That especially why something pleased, so this "full rehabilitation" resort novels and Internet Dating! In life there is always a place for exceptions, and for some reason we pre-program ourselves for the frivolity of these events... But not always the same!
So, perhaps, we will not give in to public opinion and believe in stereotypes. For pessimism is not so much reason: after all, judging by the experience of our readers, you can get acquainted everywhere. It is only necessary not to be indifferent!

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Your ideal is a rich stylish man or a beautiful girl with a smart figure? Looking for dating to create a family, remember that these qualities are not constant. Of course, the income level and appearance of the future spouse play an important role, however, the internal qualities of the partner’s value and his relationship to the family are much more important.
Psychologists have identified the most favorable qualities to create a strong family. They include: optimism, diligence, goodwill and ability to handle money. In addition, women seeking acquaintances to create a family appreciate in men the ability to take responsibility, and men primarily expect to receive emotional support from the spouse.
The more selective you are, the harder it is to find a partner for a serious relationship. This approach is commendable however you risk spending too much time searching for your ideal. Online dating to create a family can save you time and help you make the right choice in the shortest possible time.
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Even if all the information in the profile of your new acquaintance or acquaintance is true, the ideal of beauty looks at you from the photos, in your understanding, and the person is interesting in communication, has a sparkling sense of humor, etc., there still remains a chance to be disappointed at the meeting. It is simply impossible to discern many character traits when communicating on a virtual dating site: a smart and interesting interlocutor when meeting in real life can turn out to be a greedy miser, and a pretty girl can turn out to be a capricious pampered doll. In addition, even if a true photo of the person you are chatting with is posted on the dating site, then when meeting in real life, this person may not correspond to the image that develops when we look at his photo and communicate with him.